There is a big difference between “feedback” and “coaching.” You cross that line when any part of the application (excluding the letters of reference) ceases to be exclusively yours in either thought or word.
Appropriate feedback occurs when others review your completed application — perhaps once or twice — and apprise you of omissions, errors, or inaccuracies that you later correct or address.
After editing is complete, your thoughts, voice, and style remain intact.
Inappropriate coaching occurs when you allow others to craft any part of your application for you and, as a result, your application or self-presentation is not authentic.
In this section, we provide an opportunity to go beyond your resume to discuss some of your contributions more fully. ( Begin work on the essays early to give yourself time to reflect, write, and edit.
Please do not include your short-answer response in your essays upload; use the text boxes provided in the application. Feel free to ask friends or family members for feedback — especially about whether the tone and voice sound like you.
Essays help us learn about who you are rather than solely what you have done. Think carefully about your values, passions, aims, and dreams.
Other parts of the application give insight to your academic and professional accomplishments; the essays reveal the person behind those achievements. There is no “right answer” to these questions—the best answer is the one that is truest for you.
You might consider, for example, what makes this so important to you?
What people, insights, or experiences have shaped your perspectives?